VagaBomb https://www.vagabomb.com/ Vagabomb is multi-genre, contemporary writing for the quintessential 90s girl. en-us Mia’s ‘Me In Action’ Campaign Is All The Motivation You Need To Own Your Day Like A Pro https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/Mias-Me-In-Action-Campaign-Is-All-The-Motivation-You-Need-To-Own-Your-Day-Like-A-Pro/ Fri, 14 Sep 2018 06:26:20 GMT 5b8e26d99d2fe320938ba348 Pratik Aswal She’s fun, she’s lively, but at the same time she’s strong and has a mind of her own. She is today’s ‘woman in action’ - a woman who's confident, determined and yet a dreamer, enjoys doing what she loves and believes in celebrating the little joys in life. 

“I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels.”

This old adage by Maya Angelou is what every woman should live by. Mia’s new video for their Me In Action campaign is a trailblazer for aspiring young girls. It features a kick*ss woman restaurateur who’s juggling multiple things at once - she’s running around, greeting and serving the guests, manning the kitchen and all this while she wears a gleeful smile that radiates nothing but passion for her work.

Kudos to Mia for celebrating all the strong women who celebrate their femininity and are always moving, pushing boundaries and carry their unstoppable energy from work to play. The campaign inspires us to applaud all the women who work hard and plays even harder.

Watch Mia's fun campaign video below and check out their fabulous jewellery collection here.


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10 Important Life Lessons Indian Parents Should Give Their Children Instead of Just Sanskaars https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/Indian-Parenting-Is-Mostly-about-Sanskaar-When-It-Should-Be-about-These-8-Life-Lessons/ Tue, 24 Jul 2018 10:46:49 GMT 5b55c148b3e5d46c3a583757 Sreeparna Mazumder A major part of an Indian kid’s upbringing is learning about misplaced and gender-specific sanskaars. Parents pay utmost attention to these sanskaars instead of helping their kids acquire necessary life skills and practical knowledge that will help them navigate through life easily. Want to know what they are? Well, here’s a handy list.

How to file taxes so that we don’t have to panic in the weeks leading up to July 31st every year.

Neither parents nor schools prepare kids for a tax-ridden future, which is why most of us end up paying CAs to do a pretty simple job.

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Making sure that both boys and girls see the kitchen as a normal working space.

A lot of privileged families don’t train their kids in household chores because they think it’s not vital for their growth. But learning how to manage your house is as much as a part of being independent as is earning money.

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Giving sex education to your children instead of waiting for them to find out from their friends or school.

Most Indian kids learn about sex either by watching porn or from their friends. This is harmful because then they don’t learn about consent, contraception, and other important aspects of sex.

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Teaching the importance of savings and investments from a young age.

While it’s true that most parents get a piggy bank for their kids to teach them about savings, it’s not enough. As they grow up, it’s important to teach them about various forms of investments and saving options.

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Instead of telling your kids that people who drink and smoke are bad and imposing strict rules on them, teach a responsible approach.

A lot of Indian parents like to believe that their kids don’t smoke or drink, which is why most youngsters grow up without understanding the consequences of their choices. It’d be much better if parents had an honest discussion with their kids instead of shunning and berating them.

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Instead of telling daughter that they shouldn't wear short skirts or go out late in the night, train them in basic self-defence so that they can protect themselves.

A lot of us don’t know how to defend ourselves or treat our physical wounds because it’s not a part of traditional academic learning. But these are useful skills to acquire, considering the times we live in.

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Teaching the importance of assertiveness even if it means ‘answering back’ to elders.

Indian kids are taught not to ‘talk back’ to their elders even if they are wrong. Instead, they should be taught how to be assertive and form opinions, even if it means going against someone senior to them.

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Understanding gender stereotypes and why they are harmful.

Girls play with the kitchen set while boys ride cycles — this style of upbringing needs to go because we are in 2018 and now’s the time to let go of gender stereotypes.

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Normalising menstruation for both boys and girls.

Quite often, parents remain hush hush about periods, thereby reinforcing the stigma around it. Instead of this, both sons and daughters should be taught about menstruation so that it can be normalised and not seen as a 'thing' that only happens to women.

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Giving basic tips on professionalism instead of telling your kids that they shouldn't try their hands in 'bad' industries like advertising and films.

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Can you think of any other things your parents should have taught you while growing up?

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This Artist’s Cute Illustrations on Her Romantic Relationship Will Remind You of Your Partner https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/Sarah-Graley-Illustrations/ Tue, 24 Jul 2018 09:57:09 GMT 5b56e09c9d2fe30e89585d93 Sreeparna Mazumder Being in a relationship is a wonderful, weird, and sometimes, frustrating ride. And this mixed bag of experiences is captured wonderfully by Sarah Graley, an artist who makes comics featuring her partner and cats. If you've been in a long time relationship, you'll relate to her super cute comics. Here are a few of them.

When you and your partner can fart in front of each other without feeling embarrassed, that's when you know your relationship is rock-solid


When both of you fall sick together


When your partner is cute but also annoying


When your partner can't stop baby talking and you have take the matter in your hands


When your partner is a White Walker


When you have to watch helplessly as your girlfriend steals yet another one of your hoodies


When your partner is a cat disguised as a hooman


When your partner puts too much trust in you


When you've been in a relationship long enough to master the art of answering trick questions


When your partner has no time for your cutesy romance


When you can recognise your partner from far away


When both you and your partner just love staying in


When your partner is an expert t-shirt thief


When your partner's aspirations smell of trouble


When you're both cat parents

Do you relate to any of these?

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15 Times Sanitary Panels Exposed the Hypocrisy of Indian Society with Their Fun & Honest Comics https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/Sanitary-Panels-Exposed-the-Hypocrisy-of-Indian-Society/ Mon, 23 Jul 2018 13:06:24 GMT 5b55c8919d2fe318d411cd92 Sreeparna Mazumder Comics are a great, easy, and fun way of expressing opinions and learning about our society. And that's exactly what Sanitary Panels does. Started by feminist and activist Rachita Taneja, Sanitary Panels publishes comic strips that smash taboos and also point out the fallacies in our society and the government. No wonder then that they are well-received and loved by youngsters. If you haven't seen any of the comic strips, here are some of the best ones you can go through.

On the stigma around menstruation


On the importance of sex education in schools


On the facade that is the nice guy

Uptight/whore/slut/lesbian...we have a wide variety to pick from! #NiceGuy

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On the budget fiasco in the parliament


On how privilege plays a crucial role in success


On calling women 'girls'

Stop 👏 calling 👏 women 👏 "girls" 👏

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On how we perceive our problems


On how Indian society normalises abuse

It's time we stop normalising abuse #InternationalGirlChildDay #DayOfTheGirl

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On Indian parents and their hypocrisy


On what amounts as the only career choices in India


On the wholesomeness of female frienships

Women friends are the best

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On how young girls are never taught about periods


On how deodorant companies market their products to men

#comics

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On men and their issues with confident women


On racism in India

#racism #abhaydeol

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How many of these do you relate to?

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Why Does Doing These 8 Very Normal Things Make a Woman a ‘Badass’? https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/normalise-the-badassery/ Wed, 18 Jul 2018 13:55:52 GMT 5b4f38a9b3e5d44d76636c90 Sreeparna Mazumder 'Badass' has become a popular way of referring to people who are doing even the slightest out-of-the-ordinary thing, especially in the case of women. Now we get that it’s because India is a land of restrictions and ‘sanskaars’ and so, any woman who breaks the norm even a little bit is made out to be a hero. But if we continue doing so, we will never be able to normalise these things for us, which means the society will never stop imposing rules and regulations on women and boxing them. In order to change that, here are certain things that should be considered normal instead of ‘badass’.

Drinking and smoking are normal everyday choices so how does it make one a hero?

Is a man who drinks and smokes a badass? No, because it’s considered normal for them. Then, why should we alienate women who do so? Let’s get used to seeing women enjoying a stiff drink and puffing some smoke rings, shall we?

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Wearing western clothes is as much a choice as putting on traditional Indian attires.

For a very long time, urban, semi-urban, and, in some cases, even rural men have been wearing western men’s clothes and no one bats an eyelid. And yet, even in 2018, if a woman puts up an Instagram picture of herself in a bikini, we’re quick to label her as ‘those kinda women.’ Wearing a bikini shouldn’t be badassery because it’s a basic right.

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Why have we made being single and living alone special things?

Women have been conditioned to believe that the sole purpose of their lives is to get married and have children. Anyone who is not doing that is considered different even though it should be normal for people to respect everyone’s personal choices.

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Not every woman wants to have children, it doesn't mean that they are doing something exceptional.

We think it’s about time we stop boxing women into ‘has children’ and ‘childless’ because, like we said before, everything boils down to choice and no one is more special than the other.

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Holding a high position and earning a lot of money shouldn't be seen as 'badass' achievements for women.

It’s 2018. By this time it should be normal to expect a woman to run a company and earn a huge pay cheque. If it’s something exceptional to you, then something’s majorly wrong with you.

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Standing up to trolls and giving it back to them has become normal for most women who are on social media.

Sure, women should be applauded for giving it back to their haters but we have to draw the line between appreciation and romanticisation. Let’s not build a culture where we romanticise the struggles of women because it’s anything but a happy affair.

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Going out late at night or coming home late is a way of life for most urban women so let's not hold it in special regard.

Sure, venturing out late in the night is an aspiration to most women these days but they are feeling anything but badass when they are doing that. In fact, there’s a sense of fear that’s constantly bothering them when they are out at night.

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Solo travelling around the world or in the country is a basic right that every woman has so what's 'badass' about it?

When men travel, it’s considered to be a normal activity but when a woman travels alone, it’s, “oh-my-god, is she really doing it?” Why? In most developed countries of the world, it’s normal to see women going on solo trips so when will India wake up to this?

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There are a lot of activities that are considered exceptional when done by Indian women but normal, when done by men. Let’s try to change that if we want to strive for an equal world.

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15 Times Priyanka Chopra Was a Total Badass & Owned the World with Her Sass and Witty Comebacks https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/Badass-Priyanka-Chopra/ Wed, 18 Jul 2018 12:22:26 GMT 5b4f07119d2fe342088764e2 Sreeparna Mazumder Priyanka Chopra is one of the most celebrated actors around the world and what sets her apart is her badass attitude and witty comebacks. Here are a few times PeeCee showed the world who’s the boss.

When she was trolled for wearing a dress and ‘showing her legs’ while meeting PM Modi, she put up a picture of her mother and her with the caption: “Legs for days.... #itsthegenes with @madhuchopra nights out in #Berlin #beingbaywatch”.


When her armpits were being heavily discussed due to a Maxim cover, she shut that down with one ‘pit-stopping’ picture.


When a Twitter user tried to belittle her work for UNICEF, she knew exactly how to show him his rightful place.


When a talk show host referred to PC’s friend Meghan Markle as Prince Harry’s girlfriend, she called the subtle sexism out.


When she was asked about a catfight with Deepika Padukone, she promptly hit back with, “Why are women always reduced to catfights? We all have so much more to do than to waste time on ‘catfights'.”

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When she downed tequila shots on the Oscars red carpet like a boss, all the while looking like a Goddess in her now-famous Zuhair Murad gown.


When she called out sexism, pay gap, and racism in film industries unlike most of her contemporaries who shy away from these topics.


When PC famously proclaimed that she doesn’t need a guy to buy her diamonds, or for anything else for that matter, except for having children.

I buy my own diamonds. When a guy comes into my life it will not be for diamonds. A guy will be in my life only when I am in love. I don’t need a guy for anything else except for children...
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When she asked women to love themselves, be proud of their flaws, and be confident because the world is trying hard to pull them down.


When she had enough of people asking her about her ‘nose job’ and shaming her for it.

Yes, this is my original nose. There is such a false perception about what women should look like and what our bodies should look like. Especially when you are in the business, you put on a couple of pounds and people are like..body shaming you. It happens. Christmas happens to all of us. I'm an Indian, I have 100 other festivals--I have Holi, I have Diwali, and my body fluctuates and I am fine with it.



When she made it clear that she’d rather play Bond than be a Bond girl.

I get that all the time (playing a Bond girl). But fuck that — I wanna be Bond.
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When she was absolutely livid about a no-pregnancy clause in a contract.


When she schooled Chelsea Handler for asking her if she knew English when she came to the US.


When she threw major shade at Donald Trump’s immigration ban by saying she’s gotta watch what she says because she’s on a visa.


When she hung out with rumoured beau Nick Jonas in Mumbai and New York without giving a damn about the world.

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Well, here’s more power to Priyanka Chopra. Slay queen!

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Meet Pussy Riot, the Badass Women Who Disrupted the FIFA World Cup Finals for Solid Reasons https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/Pussy-Riot-In-Russia/ Tue, 17 Jul 2018 14:33:45 GMT 5b4db6a89d2fe32216850bd8 Sreeparna Mazumder I’m not a football fan and yet, on Sunday, I was hooked (thanks, social media pressure) to the FIFA World Cup Finals that took place between France and Croatia, in Moscow. And I’m glad I did so, not only because it was a nail-biting match between two deserving teams (or so I am told) but also because it was interrupted at the 52nd second by four women dressed in police uniforms.

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At first I thought it was a gimmick by football fans but after I did a bit digging around, I found out that these women had a completely different reason for invading the pitch and getting arrested in the process.


Intrigued? Here's more:

Welcome to Pussy Riot, the Russian feminist punk rock group that stands up for feminism and LGBTQIA+ rights, and is vehemently against Vladimir Putin and his politics.

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The group was founded in August, 2011 and has since had several female members roughly in the group of 20 to 33.

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They first gained global recognition when they staged an anti-Putin performance at the altar of Moscow's Cathedral of Christ the Savior.

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The members told the press that the performance was done in opposition to the church’s support of Putin. The lyrics were along the lines of "Mother of God, Blessed Virgin, drive out Putin!"

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The church got them removed and two members, Maria Alyokhina and Nadezhda Tolokonnikova, ended up serving 21 months in jail.

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Due to the time spent in prison, the Pussy Riot members have gained further experience in fighting for the rights of women and sexual minorities in Russia. Apart from this, they also regularly fight against the government’s policies, oppression of women and minorities, and police atrocities in the country.

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Their FIFA World Cup invasion was another attempt at highlighting Russia’s socio-political scenario in front of the entire world. The group explained their actions in a long statement posted on their official social media platforms.

English translation by Facebook:

LIGHTNING! Right now - the four members of Pussy Riot in the finals of the World Cup: "Milliktor comes into play" on the World Championship!
Pussy Riot in the finals of the World Championship - "The militiaman enters the Game"
Today, 11 years, the great Russian poet Dmitri Aleksandrovich Prigov died. Prigov created in Russian culture the image of the Militarist, the bearer of heavenly statehood.
Heavenly policeman, according to Prigov, talks on his radio with God himself. The militia officer fabricates criminal cases. While the celestial militiaman gently watches the fans at the World Championship, the ground policeman prepares to disperse rallies. Heavenly policeman affectionately touches the flower in the field and rejoices at the victories of the Russian national team, and the earthly policeman is indifferent to the hunger strike of Oleg Sentsov. Heavenly policeman - rises as an example of statehood, an earthly policeman - makes everyone hurt.
Heavenly policeman protects the baby's sleep, while the policeman on the ground persecutes political prisoners, planting them for reposts and huskies.
Heavenly policeman is the organizer of the wonderful carnival of the World Championship, an earthly policeman is afraid of a holiday. Heavenly policeman carefully monitors the observance of the rules of the game, an Earth policeman enters the game, regardless of the rules.
The World Championships recalled the possibility of a heavenly policeman in the beautiful future of Russia, but every day a landless policeman entering the game without rules destroys our world.
When an Earth policeman comes into play we demand:
1. To release all political prisoners.
2. Do not put for husky.
3. Stop illegal arrests at rallies.
4. Admit political competition in the country.
5. Do not fabricate criminal cases and do not keep people just in jail.
6. Turn an earthly policeman into a heavenly policeman.

The four women have been jailed for 15 days for pitch invasion and have been banned from attending sports events for 3 years.

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This punishment will not deter the group from pushing their agenda, because as mentioned before, this isn’t the first time that the Pussy Riot members have been jailed or punished for fighting against human rights violations in Russia. In fact, with every passing year, these women are not just growing stronger and firmer in their beliefs but are also reclaiming the word ‘pussy’ which is usually used to denote weakness in popular culture. Let's hope that the world will recognise their efforts and empathise with their fight.

More power to Pussy Riot.

You can read a detailed timeline of their activities here.

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Indians Opposing Sunny Leone’s Biopic but Being Okay with Sanju Is Hypocrisy at Its Best https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/Sunny-Leone-Biopic-Controversy/ Tue, 17 Jul 2018 14:23:42 GMT 5b4ddf2b9d2fe342f3620925 Sreeparna Mazumder On July 16th, Karenjit Kaur: The Untold Story of Sunny Leone, Zee5’s ambitious biopic was released to much anticipation. Directed by Aditya Datt and starring Sunny Leone in the titular role, the series chronicles the journey of Leone from a girl-next-door to a pornstar and then to a Bollywood actor.

Now as is the case with any ‘controversial’ content in India, the biopic has been heavily trolled on social media.

Why?

Because Leone has exercised her right to choose her profession. She’s a hardworking woman who has always stood by her decisions and has never shied away from being honest about her life. Whether it’s being a celebrated pornstar worldwide or being a Bollywood actor, Leone has embraced each phase of her life with dignity and integrity.




But of course, since trolls have nothing better to do, they must impose their own moral codes on her. But where were they when Bollywood successfully released and earned a shit ton of money from Sanju, a film that whitewashes convicted criminal Sanjay Dutt’s crimes and shamelessly tries to redeem his public image?

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Where were these people, with their moral codes and ethics, when Sanju shamelessly bragged that he has slept with 350 women?


This hypocrisy apart, no one has the right to question a filmmaker’s decision to choose their content. You can criticise their films and shows, you cannot, however, oppose their right to make them. It’s their fundamental right and no one can question it.

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However, this trolling isn’t the only thing affecting Leone’s biopic. The Delhi Sikh Gurdwara Management Committee (DSGMC) has objected to the use of ‘Kaur’ in the title of the film. According to TOI, DSGMC’s general secretary Manjinder Singh Sirsa said, “To use it for publicity stunt and depict the porn life of a celebrity is derogatory for Sikhs across the world.”

He even wrote a letter to Essel Group Chairman Subhash Chandra, asking him to withdraw ‘Kaur’ from the title.

This is an utterly misogynistic step because Karenjit Kaur is Sunny Leone’s name and she’s entitled to use it for her biopic. It’s not a property of any organisation and so their ‘request’ is illogical. It’s also a sexist demand considering Honey Singh can still use ‘Singh’ in spite of writing songs that objectify women and perpetuate rape culture.




The opposition to Sunny Leone’s biopic shows just how much India values its questionable morals and ethics over individuals, especially in the case of women. And tbh, it’s a futile exercise in trying to make them see sense. Instead, we must condemn these acts and come out in support of Leone and all women who are trying to tell their story in the way they want.

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Indian TV’s Favourite Dadi Maa, Veteran Actor Rita Bhaduri Passes Away at the Age of 62 https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/Rita-Bhaduri-Passes-Away/ Tue, 17 Jul 2018 07:05:32 GMT 5b4d93f39d2fe37f60ee31c8 Sreeparna Mazumder Veteran actor Rita Bhaduri, a popular face in Hindi cinema and television, passed away this morning at the age of 62. She was being treated for a kidney ailment at Mumbai's Sujay Hospital in Vile Parle. Her funeral rites will be held today, actor Shishir Sharma confirmed on Facebook.


Bollywood stars took to Twitter to offer their condolences.



Rita Bhaduri was known for enacting various popular supporting roles in films like Virasat, Raja, Hero No 1, Kabhi Haan Kabhi Naa, Kya Kehna, and Beta. She had also starred in popular TV shows like Sarabhai Vs Sarabhai, Kumkum, Ek Nayi Pehchaan, and Hasratein.



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10 Romantic Bollywood Dialogues That Are Actually Plain BS https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/BS-Romantic-Bollywood-Dialogues/ Mon, 16 Jul 2018 14:13:38 GMT 5b4c92d09d2fe3210612d9f6 Sreeparna Mazumder Bollywood is known for its cheesy romantic dialogues some of which have become a part of our popular culture. However, have you ever paused and thought if any of these dialogues mae sense in the practical and real world? No? Well, get ready for some debunking and some unlearning because we’re getting rid of some utterly BS Bollywood love dialogues today.

“Hum ek baar jeete hain, ek baar marte hain, shaadi bhi ek baar hoti hain... aur pyaar bhi ek baar hi hota hai.”

Well, this one is a no-brainer considering Rahul himself falls in love twice in the film.

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“Pyaar dosti hai. Agar woh meri sab se achchi dost nahin ban sakti, to main usse kabhi pyar kar hi nahi sakta."

Well, for some, maybe. But, it’s not necessary. You and your partner need not be in a platonic relationship before entering a romantic one.

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“Jab koi pyaar mein hota hai toh koi sahi galat nahi hota.”

Nope. It's dialogues like these that justify stalking, molesting, and disrespecting a woman's consent. 

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“Kahin naa kahin, koi naa koi mere liye banaya gaya hai.”

This is probably the most bullshit propaganda that Bollywood has fed us. There’s no one person waiting for you to fall in their arms so please stop wasting your time.

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“Agar woh mujhse pyaar karti hai toh paltegi.”

Well, good luck.

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“Main tumhe bhool jaon yeh ho nahi sakta... aur tum mujhe bhool jao yeh main hone nahi doonga.”

Honestly, this is a pretty threatening thing to say to your ex or partner. It's 2018 and we can't normalise dialogues like these that justify harassment and proprietorship in relationships.

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“Mohabbat ka naam aaj bhi mohabbat hai, yeh na kabhi badli hai aur na kabhi badlegi.”

Uh, this literally translates to love is called love and it will never change. Duh.

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“Tumhare jaisi ladkiyan flirting ke liye nahi, ishq ke liye bani hai.”

As if women need any more boxes to be put in? Aren't we already clubbed into roles like mother, daughter, and sister?

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“Sachchi mohabbat zindagi mein sirf ek baar hoti hai... aur jab hoti hai... toh koi bhagwan yah khuda usse nakamyab nahi hone deta.”

Again, no. There’s no one true love, it’s a concept that Bollywood has conditioned us to believe. You can fall in love many times and that doesn’t mean that there’s something wrong with you.

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“Mujhe yakeen hai ki mein sirf isliye janma hoon ki tumse pyar kar sakun. Tum sirf isliye, ki ek din meri ban jaaon.”

What about education, ambitions, and perhaps, food? Also, love sets one free, it doesn’t give anyone the right to claim ownership over their partner.

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Are there any more illogical Bollywood love dialogues that you know if? Let us know.

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10 Casually Sexist Things That Have Become Normal for Indian Women & We Couldn’t Feel Sorrier https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/Casually-Sexist-Things-Indian-Women-Face/ Mon, 16 Jul 2018 14:07:23 GMT 5b4c821eb3e5d4765039c6d0 Sreeparna Mazumder Casually sexist things that we see everyday (waiting handing wine menu, giving bill to the guy)

Every day, women face sexism in almost all spheres of their lives, right from their family homes to workplaces. And this has happened to such an extent that it has become normal for women to deal with casual sexim. While some go about their lives without protesting, others don’t even recognise it. If you’re wondering how much casual sexism has been normalised for women, here are a few examples.

Getting handed the wine menu or being offered vodka

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Women don’t drink just wine or vodka but at most parties or social settings, it’s assumed that they prefer these ‘soft’ alcoholic drinks over more masculine ones like whiskey. Well, truth be told, to each his own.

Watching the restaurant bill being handed to their male partner

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To this day, many waiters assume that the man is paying the bill and so, instead of keeping it on the table, they directly hand it over to the man while blissfully assuming that the women is incapable of paying for a meal.

Being catcalled

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Ask any woman about how she deals with catcalling in public places and she’ll tell you that she ignores it most of the time.

Men sitting at the head of the table

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Even in the most progressive homes, men are often considered the head of the table and are usually served first.

Getting mansplained at work and home

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It has become second nature for women to get mansplained almost every other day, sometimes even on topics like period and pregnancy.

Choosing clothes carefully for work

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While men are rarely judged for what they wear to work, women are almost always scrutinised. Sometimes, the neckline is too low and at other times, the attire is ‘boring’.

Sitting uncomfortably in public transport systems

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No matter which part of the world you live in, there’s no escaping manspreading, which takes away a woman’s right to sit comfortably.

Accepting a curfew at home and hostels

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Most parents impose a curfew on their daughters, sometimes even adult and working ones. But is there such a restriction for sons? Nope. The same goes for women's hostels. While women have to get in by 10 pm or earlier, there's no restrictions for boys

Getting judged for not knowing how to cook

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Even today, as much as we would like to believe, women are judged for not knowing how to cook. In the case of men, however, there are no such expectations.

Tone policing

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Men can shout to express their frustration whereas women are expected to be calm and collected even under the most frustrating circumstances. Which is why, most women, even the assertive ones, keep their tone down because they don’t want to be asked if they are PMS-ing.

These are a few examples of casual sexism that have been normalised for women. If you face any of this, or more, let us know in the comments.

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20 Little Things He Says That Mean Much More Than ‘I Love You’ https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/Things-Better-Than-I-Love-You/ Sat, 14 Jul 2018 06:43:10 GMT 5b48af7cb3e5d4304509fc2f Arushi Kapoor There isn't just one way to say "I love you". Here are just 20 of the several ways he declares his love for you.


Design Credits: Saransh Singh

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The Stories Behind These 17 Real-Life Haunted Dolls Will Give You The Creeps https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/Real-Life-Haunted-Dolls-Stories/ Fri, 13 Jul 2018 13:37:39 GMT 5b488a2ab3e5d4069224b897 Meenu Katariya

The only doll I ever had, has been a true companion for life. I remember giving my doll a name, dressing it up, and brushing its hair. Sad, or happy, I used to share every moment with it. 

While I've had happy memories of my doll, it's not the same for the people who are still being haunted by these creepy dolls.

1. Okiku 

Every year, this doll hair grows up to its knees and then it is trimmed back to just below shoulder length.

Source: Theparanormalguide

 

In 1918, a young man bought this doll for his 2-year-old sister. The two became inseparable until her untimely death. Soon after, the family noticed the doll's hair getting longer.

Source: unexplainedmysteries

 

2. Annabelle 

People who owned this doll, reported that it leaves handwritten messages for its owners.

 

Donna, who owned this doll, became the victim of its evil spirits. Annabelle is the name of the mischievous spirit that haunts the doll. 

3. Robert 

The doll sits comfortably in the Fort East Martello Museum, Florida. It can move across the room and follow you with its creepy eyes.

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Robert, the boy who owned this doll, took it everywhere he went and dressed him in his own clothes. Weird things started happening in the house and the doll was blamed for them.

It shocks the visitors with its presence when the cameras malfunction and the electronic devices go haywire.

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4. Peggy

80% of the people who come into contact with “Peggy”, or even look at her, experience some kind of bad reaction that range anywhere from headaches to full blown mania.

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Peggy was believed to be causing bad dreams to the family who owned it. The family even brought in a priest to bless their home, but the situation worsened, and they sold the doll. 

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5. Joliet 

The doll was not only haunted but also cursed. It was known to cause the death of the owner's baby boy.

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This century old doll was believed to give out piercing cries of a baby boy in the night. Moreover, only the mother of the deceased child could hear the cries.

Anna G, presently has this doll and the family keeps passing it on from one generation to another even after its being cursed.

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6. Caroline 

Caroline is believed to have three different owners who chose it to be the vessel of their spirits. All three of its owners are dead and they are believed to be fighting over its control.

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The doll was last seen in 2004 at an antique shop in Salem, Massachusetts. It has been missing since its last owner died in 2006.

7. Letta

This doll causes its viewers to go into fits and hysterics. It is also said to be able to move of its own accord, changing positions, or at times 'pulsing' when being held.

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This doll was created by a doll maker as a lookalike for his son who died of drowning at an age of six. It is believed that the doll still contains the little boy's soul that is not malicious.

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8. The Pulau Ubin Barbie

It is placed at the 'German Girl's Shrine' in Pulau Ubin and it is believed that the doll has been requested from beyond the grave.

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A man dreamt of a Caucasian girl leading him to a Barbie doll for three nights in a row, with a request for it to be placed at her altar. After finding the exact store and Barbie doll in real life, he purchased it and placed it on the shrine.

 

9. Patty Reed's Doll

This doll has witnessed a lot of atrocities when it was stranded with its owner in snow for months.

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Patty Reed, the 8-year-old owner of this doll belonged to the Donner family. Once when the family was stranded in snow, they could survive only by eating mice, animals, and eventually each other. While most of those stranded died, only the little girl, Patty who had hidden the doll beneath her clothes survived.

10. The doll that aged - like a human.

Once baby-faced, this doll now has wrinkles all over its body and looks like an old-lady.

Source: theparanormalguide

 

This doll aged like a person does, when the family kept it locked in a box for around eleven years. 

11. Emilia

Emilia is often reported to be sad and people see sorrow in her eyes. The doll lost its voice box in a bomb blast but still cries for its Mumma.

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The doll lost both its arms and scalp in a bomb blast when its owner, Marie was travelling on a train. The doll is possessed by the spirit of a woman who tried to escape the train but couldn't. Marie is now dead. Her daughter takes care of the doll.

12. The Janesville Doll 

People have reported seeing this doll walking around the attic, giggling like a child and at times even staring at them and chasing them on the street.

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This doll was owned by a man whose daughter had accidentally died—or was allegedly murdered (no one knows what the real story is)—so the doll was placed in memory of the lost soul.

Source: worldnow

 

13. The voodoo zombie doll

The doll is known to attack its owner several times. 

Source: YouTube

 

A woman in Texas bought a real haunted voodoo zombie doll on eBay in 2004. All her attempts to sell the doll or burn it proved to be a failure. She would find it sitting in the living room at night, making weird noises. 

Later, she called for a priest who blessed the doll and locked it up in her basement.

14. Pupa

The doll is confined in a glass cabinet, which she doesn't seem to like much. It keeps knocking on the glass cabinet to get out.

Source: theparanormalguide

 

This doll was made in the likeness of her owner, a young girl in Italy who lived with it for 85 long years. The little girl who owned Pupa often stated that her doll was 'alive' and had a will of its own. She would often talk with the doll and that Pupa held all of her secrets.

Source: theparanormalguide

 

15. Mandy 

Its presence made people feel uneasy like they were being watched.

Source: theparanormalguide

 

The doll's owner donated it to a museum as it would make weird sounds of a baby crying and throw the windows open so that the old breeze would seep in.

It is presently taken care of by the Quesnel and District Museum, British Columbia, Canada,

Source: theparanormalguide

 

16. Harold

Its owner reported that he could hear the laughing and crying of a baby from the basement where the doll was stored. He also claimed that the doll seemed to have a pulse.

Source: Hauntedharolddoll

 

The man who sold this doll on eBay was petrified by its presence. He lost his cat, his girlfriend and himself started suffering from chronic migraines. 

17. Patty

The doll that was used to perform black magic.

 Nancy Oyola, inherited over 300 dolls from her grandmother, who was a psychic. Most of the dolls are believed to be haunted and Patty is one among them.

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30 Times Ansel Elgort Made Us Find The Fault in Our Stars & We’re Not Okay, Okay? https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/Ansel-Elgort-Fault-in-Our-Stars-Okay/ Fri, 13 Jul 2018 13:31:00 GMT 5b4890209d2fe33a43158086 Asmita The Fault in Our Stars fame Ansel Elgort spellbound millions with his simplicity, effortless wit, and charm. From suave portraits to sunshine-stricken candids, here's a curation of some of his best pictures that will make you reproach the fault in your stars.


📷 @arthurelgort

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Agreed. Totes.


@teenvogue

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More than just looks, Ansel is a very creative person. Did you know that, Ansel is also a singer and a DJ (under the name Ansølo)?

What is this sorcery?


HOME ALONE

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How much more adorable could he possibly get?

This is Ansel DJ-ing, and we are more than impressed.

Okay, so, Ansel is apparently dating his high-school sweetheart, Violetta Komyshan, since 2012 (approximately equal to the number of pieces our heart just got into shattered into right now). We are sorry to do this to you, too. Come, let's sob together. 

Annnd she's a ballerina. Oh god, how perfect are they together. Couple goals or what, people?


Perks of having a ballerina girlfriend.

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When Ansel knows exactly what to say. Heart emojis.

Also, also, he is an avid sportsman and skateboarder. He just made our "summer daze" so much more better. Hustle like Ansel, yo.


Nyc summer daze 📷: @Josuerec

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How can he look this cute without even tryingggg?

Ideal vacay looks like this. Okay? Okay.


Australia 🇦🇺

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Ah, the ray of sunshine he is.

Now, brace yourself for some debonair Ansel.

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H e a r t s = T o r n

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His character in The Fault in Our Stars personified the anti-mainstream heartthrob that he is.

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NO.NO.NO.NO. You look the other way Mister.

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His candids have a certain innocence and gullibility that make us want to... ughh, let it be. We'll just stalk his Insta and blame our stars. Hmph.

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 Literal representation of Ansel paving his way to our hearts.


The fall fashion preview in @GQ

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Oh, boi.


At the piano photo by Dad

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That side-look though. My my.

Ansel in solitude is poetry, people. It's the stuff that weaves magic. In vain, though, of course. Sighs.

More crisp pictures of Ansel because, why not.

The fault in our stars. W @natandalex

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The fulcrum of all this agony is actually how unconventionally awesome he is. 


Tbt @gq

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PRADA MILANO #PRADAXPRADA

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This is pretty sweet! @vanityfair @vanityfairitalia

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One more, and then we'll leave you to it.


Most beautiful place I've ever been. 🌏 (Photo @carmelovarela )

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Okay, now, we'll go and listen to his songs on repeat, and imagine that it is indeed Ansel singing to us irl. Bye Bye.

Images taken from Ansel Elgort's Instagram.

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8 Budget Cafes in Delhi You Must Visit When You Are Broke but Want to Eat Good Food https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/Budget-Cafes-in-Delhi-You-Must-Visit-When-You-Are-Broke/ Fri, 13 Jul 2018 13:24:09 GMT 5b485fb9b3e5d46192efed67 Krishna Priya Pallavi If you are a foodie and you are living in the capital, then the streets and the delicious food that it offers won't disappoint you. Delhi is a haven for anybody who lives and breathes food. Most importantly it's under your budget too, so you can indulge in your favourite delicacies as much as you want without going overboard. From cheap street food to swanky restaurants, Delhi has something to satisfy every palate and to please every pocket. So, if you are a broke but can't stop yourself from indulging in delicacies then here are some places that you must visit for cheap yet amazing food. 

Anand's Biryani Corner

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If you love delicious biryani that is cheap as hell but fills up your tummy, then this is the place for you. They serve piping hot plates of chicken biryani, mutton biryani, keema kababs, and delicious thalis which are just enough for two people. 

Where: Scindia House, 15/96-97, Connaught Ln, Atul Grove Road, Janpath, Connaught Place 

Big Yellow Door

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Fancy decor, great taste, filling dishes and all under your budget, BYD is a great place for those who enjoy a nice ambience, great waiting staff, while enjoying their dishes. Known for its trendy drinks, mouthwatering pasta, and amazing burgers, you will fall in love with this place because of its pocket-friendly rates.

Where: H-8B, Vijay Nagar, Opp NDPL Office, New Delhi

Hawkers

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When you are broke and want to spend very less on everything, travelling to a cafe also seems like a lot, so home deliveries always come to our rescue. Hawkers definitely has our vote for the best and cheapest Indian Chinese food in the city. The momos, especially with the sauce, and the chilly garlic noodles are a must try. They also have a food truck if you feel like going out and having food. 

Where: Pocket 7, Sector B, Vasant Kunj, New Delhi

Triveni Terrace Cafe

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A hidden treasure and a nice place with natural green surroundings and serene environment, this is an ideal place if you want to eat on a budget while also spending time alone or with friends. Do give their palak patta chaat, pakoda, tea, lassi, chicken biryani, keema paratha, and keema mutter a try. 

Where: 205, Tan Sen Marg, Opp. FICCI Auditorium, New Delhi, Delhi 110001

Mezbaan Restaurant

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This tiny food joint is located just opposite the east gate of JNU. Decorated with lanterns and quirky decor items, this place serves really good food. Mezbaan is one of those crowded places that serve finger-licking good, where you want to go every single time. Try their butter chicken, shahi paneer, malai kofta, paneer tikka, dal makhani, and chicken malai tikka.

Where: 383/1B, Ch.Mir Singh Complex, Near Bata Showroom, Bank Street, Munirka

Wai Wai City 

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We love noodles because they are cheap, they are filling, and they are every broke person's go to dinner choice and this noodle bar offers exactly that. They have so many options to choose from and they even offer an option where you can make your own bowl. Do try their lite garlic chow, and the China chilly for sure. 

Where: Shop No-5, Food Court, 3rd Floor, Logix City Centre Mall, Sector 32, Noida

Kunzum Travel Cafe 

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This travel-inspired cafe in Delhi's Hauz Khas village is quirky in every way. Their concept of 'You pay as you wish' is what attracts young hearts here. They usually serve tea and a few snacks, and you can pay whatever you like. It’s just the perfect place for anyone who just needs a place to work out from without having to spend too much on food.

Where: T-49, GF, Hauz Khas Village, New Delhi

Gupta Dhaba

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This quintessential dhaba offers mouthwatering rajma chawal and paneer-stuffed kulchas, which will make all your worries of being broke go away and just enjoy the moments of pure delicacy. While you are there give their dal makhani, shahi paneer, mix veg, and thali a try. 

Where: Near Uphaar Cinema, Green Park Extension Market, Green Park, New Delhi

Ready for some cheap and delicious treats?

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Sexism at Workplace: 9 Ways Female Bosses Are Treated Differently than Their Male Counterparts https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/Sexism-at-Workplace/ Fri, 13 Jul 2018 12:57:13 GMT 5b489f68b3e5d4068fbffadd Sreeparna Mazumder Nowadays, workplaces are trying their best to be inclusive and treat all their employees equally. However, there's an inherent sexism that's hard to let go off, especially when it comes to the treatment of male and female bosses. While men are easily respected in positions of power, women have a hard time being taken seriously. If you don't believe us, here are some examples that will show an ugly reality.











Have you seen people behaving this way at work?

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14 Ways I Will Raise My Daughter Differently from the Way My Mother Raised Me https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/14-Ways-I-Will-Raise-My-Daughter-Differently-from-the-Way-My-Mother-Raised-Me/ Fri, 13 Jul 2018 12:45:02 GMT 5b488d949d2fe33a43158083 Sreeparna Mazumder My mother has done a lot for me. Despite being a victim of patriarchy, she has always strived to ensure that I lead a better life than hers — get a good education, become independent, and live life on my terms. However, there are certain regressive practices even she couldn’t escape, thanks to inherent misogyny and social conditioning.

But I can.

If I ever have a daughter, here are a few things I’ll do differently than my mother.

I’ll not impose gender stereotypes on her.

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I’ll not teach her to be sanskaari in the way my mother did but would rather raise her as a good person.

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I’ll not put her on a pedestal and call her ghar ki lakshmi. She’s human and entitled to err.

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I’ll teach her to manage everything in her life and not just the kitchen.

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I’ll not tell her that she can’t go out at night.

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I’ll not stigmatise menstruation for her. She can touch pickles, eat them, and even go to temples if she wants to.

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I’ll not raise her with the intention of getting her married.

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I’ll not tell her that she needs to find her prince charming.

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I won’t tell her that her life is incomplete without kids.

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I won’t ask her to come back early from work because she’s a girl.

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I won’t bodyshame her just because she doesn’t fit into society’s idea of a conventionally beautiful girl.

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I’ll teach her to stand up for her rights kyunki kuch toh log kahenge, logon ka kaam hai kehna.

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I’ll not tell her that she’s not like other girls because women don’t pull down women anymore.

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I’m going to raise her as a feminist.

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15 People Share What They Wish People Should Try to Do More & It’ll Make You Think https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/people-share-what-they-wish-more-people-would-try-the-answers-will-make-you-retrospect/ Fri, 13 Jul 2018 12:39:06 GMT 5b48951b9d2fe338b8f4079f Krishna Priya Pallavi Humans are extremely peculiar beings, we have emotions that makes us vulnerable, dependent, and emotional, yet we choose to become this cold, distorted version of ourselves that we fail to recognise the reflection in the mirror. It is a very different world, where we choose to become a mean person over a kind one. While we all hope and wish for this world to be a better place, very few of us make the effort to do so. So, a Reddit user asked a few people to share what do they wish people all over would try to do more. Here's what they replied. 















We need to be more sensitive. 

Creatives by Aakansha Pushp.

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Utterly Gripping & Unsettling: Acid Is a Journey of a Woman Discovering Her Individuality https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/Acid-Excerpt/ Fri, 13 Jul 2018 12:29:14 GMT 5b489145b3e5d41326594a55 Krishna Priya Pallavi Life is a brief, waking dream-but who casts the spell? What happens when the ghost of your past life keep haunting you every day? How do you live then? 

Acid is a story about two striking women, Kamala and Shaly, who live together in an unusual household, fuelled by their intense, tempestuous romance in a rapidly changing Bangalore. The journey takes the readers on a scarring and disturbing journey of Kamala as she figures out the society she lives in and motherhood. Utterly gripping and powerfully unsettling, Sangeetha Srinivasan's phenomenal debut unravels the secrets that lurk beneath the surface of our lives. 

Read an excerpt from Acid by Sangeetha Sreenivasan here:

Kamala’s mother died last night. It had been several months since she started dying. Now that she was dead, Kamala should have been beside her body for the eulogy in absolute mourning. But Kamala felt an appallingly sincere lack of feeling and a pain numbed by dullness.

She had visited her mother three months ago. Truth be told, she went there not to see her mother but to make arrangements to buy a flat in Kadavanthra. After a long and weary drive from Bangalore, she reached her mother’s house at six-thirty in the evening. In the dim light of the room, her mother couldn’t recognize her. She couldn’t recognize her mother either. That was not the mother she had been used to since her childhood. The woman in front of her was incontinent and lay crumpled up on the bed. She was wearing large and heavily soaked diapers, and farted every so often. She looked as if she was nobody’s mother, a disfigured skeleton wrapped in loose skin. When Kamala touched her, her bones rattled.

Aadi stood by the headboard, looking compassionately at the figure that was once a woman. His eyes welled up. He had seen only babies in diapers before this. When he listened to her closely he heard some unconscious prayers in an unconscious tongue. He looked at the photographs of the ancestors on the wall, arranged like surgical knives in a long tray. There was his grandfather, a man who died young, in his early forties. It seemed he had lived only to be photographed and framed, a shiny scalpel with a sharp edge.

Early the next morning Kamala set out with Aadi to Kadavanthra. As they drove to the city, she talked loudly to the land broker over the phone.

‘We have to go back to Bangalore tomorrow. If you can arrange it today, please do or else forget it. We are on our way already.’

‘Madam, there is a huge traffic jam here. Some strike is holding up the traffic. You can’t imagine what a huge mess it is.’

‘You should have informed me earlier.’ Kamala disconnected the call, but she continued to drive.

It was not the rush hour. But they had to wait for hours in the long queue of vehicles honking madly every now and then. When at last they managed to get out of the car, they saw the city transformed into a garden of love, emanating sulphur fantasies and blissful delights. It exhaled the fragrance of wild magnolia and dark roses. ‘Is this some kind of a festival of love? Some fancy show?’ They looked at each other. Both mother and son blushed alike. Embarrassment reddened their faces. On the streets, people were kissing. Kissing gently. Kissing passionately. Kissing wildly. As if their kisses answered the meaning of their existence. Kamala felt a sudden urge to kiss her son. She held his hand tighter and continued to blush at this rainbow sight of love.

Some of the kissers had zills on their fingers, which jingled as they kissed each other. The sound of the finger cymbals reminded her of the voices of bedtime stories, and the sound of the heavy tambourines brought back unwanted memories. Once upon a time, or a long time ago, or whatever the fucking phrase was, she had kissed a friend of hers passionately on the lips. She was in her white chemise and her friend had looked like a flower, a girl in her early teens. Her tongue was a petal, as rosy as could be. And Kamala couldn’t help but kiss. She kissed her hard till someone’s belt whipped her on her back. Before she could turn around and see who the hell it was, she was prostrated on the ground, bleeding for the first time in her life, staining her white chemise.

Everything turned pale and purple in front of Kamala. She noticed the waste piled up in the corners of the city, the dumpsters yawning in the void, the faces of the kissers (were they lovers by any chance?) getting slimy with thick saliva, which she was sure smelled of rotten semen. The kisses slithered down their faces, evoking reminiscence of a hellish fall. When she saw the policemen swinging their canes, getting ready to charge at the kissing mob, she felt relieved. Reality means a hell of a lot in life. She sighed.

Aadi was still inside the car. He didn’t wish to get out. Kissing was nothing new in Bangalore. Lovers kissed in every nook and corner of the city. In Lal Bagh, kisses bloomed better than flowers. But still, this was novel because this was a strike, a protest against the moral policing of Kerala and they called it ‘the kiss of love’.

Soon the canes swirled overhead, the polish on the shoes was stained by dirt and the people began to dissolve. Someone got fed up and sang fack fack fack in the background.

The selected portion has been excerpted from Acid, written by Sangeetha Sreenivasan and published by Penguin Random House India. 

Sangeetha Sreenivasan is a novelist and scriptwriter who writes both in Malayalam and English. She has recently translated Elena Ferrante's Days of Abandonmentinto Malayalam to much acclaim. Her next novel, Salabham Pookkal Aeroplane, will be published in September 2018.

You can purchase the book here

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These WTF Arguments Are The Reasons Given In Court Against Decriminalising Same Sex Relationships https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/WTF-Arguments-for-section-377/ Fri, 13 Jul 2018 12:08:37 GMT 5b488249b3e5d406939db02a Rohit Bhattacharya The decriminalisation of homosexuality in India has been a long time coming. Unfortunately, there are still those who believe they can curb the freedoms of consenting adults. On Thursday, the Supreme Curt heard more arguments, both for and against the 120-year-old draconian law.

Things started off normal enough, with Advocate Menaka Guruswamy arguing against Section 377 of the IPC.


Her arguments were powerful, passionate and pleading. She fought for the rights of the petitioners, who she said deserve the protection of their constitution and their country. She was the first female lawyer to speak to a packed courtroom, and she really humanised the case, and the price it has taken the people affected.


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She even gave the example of the Indian Psychiatric Association, which states that homosexuality is not a disease.


But as those who were fighting to keep Section 377, those who are against consensual same sex relationships come to the stand, the arguments went from vaguely baffling...


To the downright bizarre.


The arguments were vapid, redundant, and altogether imbecilic.


They even claimed that as the majority of Indians weren't homosexuals, their views deserved priority and relevance. Which makes absolutely no sense in this case. 

Criminalising something because the majority is against it is not how the law works, it's how a mob works.


The CJI was of the same mind, mentioning that majoritarianism doesn't exactly apply in a court of law.


The vacuous responses kept coming though.


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The bench was finally adjourned and arguments from the respondents will now continue from next Tuesday.

It's pretty easy to see that the respondents are grasping at straws, and that no one can make an actual, intelligent argument about why Section 377 should still be kept in place. The only people supporting Sec 377 are conservative politicos looking to maintain their grasp over the part of the population that still believes homosexuality is a choice, a sin and an abnormality. It's 2018 however, and there's really no place for people like those anymore.

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I Tried Quitting Smoking For A Week & It Was Harder Than I Thought It’d Be https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/Quitting-Smoking-For-A-Week/ Fri, 13 Jul 2018 12:07:52 GMT 5b4887ea9d2fe32c1c539e59 Aishwarya Dharni Disclaimer: The opinions expressed here are those of the author. Vagabomb does not endorse smoking.

I'm a smoker. That is how I've been identifying myself for the past 6 years.

F/24- Writer, smoker, baker.

Till about now, my life revolved around the question, 'Abey, sutta peene chalega?'

I say till now because my ignorant ass accepted a challenge which required me to quit smoking for a week because well, my pride is above all.

Me backing out from a challenge? No smokin' way!

So, I openly accepted the challenge in front of everybody and decided to go on this journey of pain.

Let's just say that one week felt like ten and I can already let you know that I experienced emotions I didn't even know I was capable of.

Day 1

So they say the first day is normally the easiest when it comes to quitting smoking. Whoever said that is a liar!

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The first step to quitting smoking cigarettes is to let everyone around you know that you're on a mission. That way you will not try to sneak away to smoke because no one wants to be called a quitter.

I literally told everyone at work that I'm trying to quit and if they see me smoking, shame me.

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To be honest, the first day was easy-peasy. You know, when you're jacked up on motivation and all you wanna do is succeed. I was dumb enough to think, "Oh, this so easy. I don't even feel like smoking. I'm gonna win this!"

Wrong. So fucking wrong.

Day 2

Okay, so I managed to spend a whole day yesterday without smoking a single cigarette. Something I haven't done in six years.

Phew, feels like an achievement already!

Yay me!

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But whoever said habits are hard to break was 100% right! Because breaking this habit is simply not as easy as I thought it'd be.

Also, it's the worst when you're sitting idle. This hit me with the realisation that 80% of the time I was smoking only because I had nothing else to do. The feeling of having something between my fingers is not an easy feeling to get rid of.

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I sulked at my desk all day without taking any breaks because I didn't know what to do with the free time on my hands. What does one even do during a break if not smoke? I was so lost. How does one function like this?

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To top it, my colleagues were total assholes to me, asking me to step out for a smoke break with them. It was as if they were the snake trying to tempt Eve into biting the apple.

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With just the right amount of willpower, I somehow managed to shoo them away and stay at my desk.

But I couldn't help gawking at them through the window, feeling left out AF.

I definitely have fewer friends at work now.

Home wasn't that great either!

My flatmates were obviously avoiding me because they didn't want to make me feel bad by smoking in front of me. So, instead, they just chose to hang out with each other and not acknowledge me. It was for my own good. But damn, it stung.

Wow, thanks, guys! Just what I needed. Zero support from my friends.

Day 3

No one said hi to me when I reached office today.

To make matters worse, my panwadi passive aggressively offered me nicotine chewing gums to hold onto whatever can be salvaged of this beautiful friendship we once had.

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About Rs. 100 saved. But one more friend lost.

I sulked at my desk once again and downed espresso shots whenever I craved a smoke.

I was a shaking mess by the time it was time to go home. So was my desk!

Once again, my douchey flatmates ignored me and this time they had the audacity to go out drinking without asking me.

Their excuse? They didn't wanna drag me to a place where literally everyone around will be huffing and puffing. Well, okay that might sound right, but fuck right! I am on a journey to quit smoking, not quit life!

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They came back home with a packet of nicotine chewing gums for me and oh my God, it is the worst thing to put in your mouth! Oh wait, is this what irony feels like? I'm so confused. I tried one piece and was gagging like I swallowed poison.

But I had to make sure I don't show my weaknesses to my friends so I kept at it and it was the worst experience of my life. 

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Day 4

I survived the nicotine chewing gums and decided they aren't my cup of tea. If the smoking doesn't kill me, this thing surely would - death by too much disgust.

I went back to depending on my own strength, which was also fading away now.

At this point, I'm not sure if I'm the same person anymore. I haven't moved from my desk at work in four days, except when nature called and to make matters worse, I just realised I haven't even gossiped with anyone in days.

Why? Because gossip happens during breaks and I take no breaks. Breaks lead to smoking and smoking leads to me losing. 

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At one point, things got so weird I was nearly on the verge of getting fired.

Not being able to smoke has put me in such bad moods that I haven't experienced ever before. I snapped at my boss a few times and well, let's just say, she wasn't amused.

I mean, can no one understand what I'm going through right now? No? Well. Neither can I.

Pliss help!

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While I was overcome with all the first world drama, something magical was happening. And I realised it when I randomly checked my wallet.

I finally found my silver lining.

The amount of money I had saved in just 4 days was insane. I knew smoking is an expensive habit but I never really got down to calculating it.

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It's definitely not a significant amount because it has just been four days. But it's definitely enough to open my eyes that I was literally just throwing away money at cigarettes. 

Like my only non-smoker friend says, 'Isse achha paisa jalaa de'. I get it now.

So since money is always a motivation for millennials who earn peanuts, I decided to tell my whiny ass to STFU and focus more on why it's better to quit smoking rather than complaining about how difficult it is.

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I also went home and told my flatmates to stop ignoring me and smoke away to glory in front of me. It was time to put my foot down and stop behaving like a child.

Day 5

Once acceptance sets in, almost anything is possible. Even though the cravings are getting worse, my body is definitely feeling healthier.

I bought an electric cigarette for myself so I could get rid of the hand-to-mouth movements I was so used to. It actually helps!

I was also in a better mood as compared to the rest of the days and even my boss complimented me on my progress. 

Also, quitting smoking definitely lets you sleep more soundly. I was fresh AF to work today because I had the best sleep of my life last night.

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Also, my appetite has increased significantly. I never paid any heed to the fact that smoking kills my appetite and my body doesn't get the proper nutrition it deserves.

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I am a fucking brand new person!

Day 6

I know this journey is not coming to come to an end but has just begun. 6 long years of A LOT of smoking won't just go away in a few days but I'm starting to value my health, something I never even thought of before.

I'm not coughing as often, the phlegm is bidding goodbye slowly, my stamina has definitely gone up a notch, and I don't stink of tobacco all the time.

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Also, the fact that I'm avoiding cigarettes has helped me cut down on drinking too.

I finally went out with my friends last night and for a person who chugged 10 drinks and 500 cigarettes in one night, I had two beers. More moolah my way, bitches!

Day 7

Okay, so the last day was mixed with a lot of emotions and thoughts. I know I should continue with this challenge for as long as it takes me to completely quit smoking. But I know it's not going to be as easy as I think.

But I'm still going to try my best.

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I'm sure I won't be able to completely quit smoking all at once and there are going to be days where all I'd want is to sit alone and enjoy a cup of tea with a sutta in my hand, but I definitely don't want to give up.

This challenge made me realize that my body is a temple and if treated in the right way, it has a lot to do with the kind of life I lead.

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And if that means that I have to let go of a nasty habit which has held me captive, I'd gladly do so.

I know there are going to be days which are easy and days which will make me lose my mind. But I'm sure if a healthier life is on the cards, it should be taken seriously.

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Piece of advice:

If you're not a smoker, stay that way. Your body will thank you.

But if you are one, it's all about one day at a time, and a long healthy life won't just be a dream anymore.

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This New Luxury Resort Coming Up In Delhi Is The Purrfect Getaway For You & Your Furry Babies https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/Luxury-Pet-Resort-In-Delhi/ Fri, 13 Jul 2018 11:49:51 GMT 5b4889ee9d2fe32c20cb7749 Ira Shukla If you happen to be a dog parent, you know all too well the struggle of leaving your darling pet behind when you're going out.

As if the guilt of leaving them alone wasn't enough, you are also concerned about their safety and well-being. 

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The mentioned guilt led Delhi-based Achal Gupta open a pet resort in the city, which opens on the 18th of July.

Located on Rohtak Road, the idea of 'Jeffurry's: The Pet Resort' struck Achal after he figured that many other people go through the same problem as him, and more often than not have to settle for whatever option they have at the time. 

He has named the resort after his dog Jeff (yeah, please go ahead with that 'aww').

The resort has every facility you could ask for your dogs.

Besides an air-conditioned dog hotel with 40 rooms, there's also a pool, park and cafe where the owners can chill with their pets. 

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The Jeffurry's also hold training seminars and birthday parties for the dogs and have a staff that takes care of your pet when you're not around. 

So all in all, you now have a place where you can chill with your pet and leave them behind knowing that they are having the time of their lives. 


Definitely a great way to say thank you to your pet who give you so much unconditional love and affection.

All pictures are taken from the resort's Facebook and Instagram handles.

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25 Short Poems About Love In The Time Of Rain That Will Have Your Heart Hurting & Healing https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/Poems-About-Love-Rain-Heart/ Fri, 13 Jul 2018 10:56:53 GMT 5b487968b3e5d402e38eda39 Dessidre Fleming Have you ever loved anyone? Has the rain ever stirred a part of your soul in a strange way that you could never understand or explain? Has the rain ever reminded you of a love you had, but, then lost, all the same?

Does the rain dull out the noise around you so that the only sound remaining is the one that's from a distant memory?

If the answers to these questions are in a heavy-hearted affirmative, take a minute, and drown yourself in the poetry of the rain, or as I'd like to call it, the sound of love.





So, have you really felt the rain recently? 

 

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A Comprehensive & Effective Summer Skincare Guide for People Who Have Sensitive Skin https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/Summer-Skincare-Guide-for-People-With-Sensitive-Skin/ Fri, 13 Jul 2018 10:19:58 GMT 5b47508d9d2fe32741f3c046 Krishna Priya Pallavi Summers mean no time to relax. And if you are someone who has sensitive skin, this season just does not go with your skin's health and problems. The sweat, the dust, even the sun just act up to give the worst time possible to your skin. That's why it's important to focus on maintaining your regular skincare routine. We know it can be very tough, considering we are all just running all the time, from the start of the day to the end, but every now and then just take a few minutes for pampering yourself. So here are a few tips that you can use this, and every summer to keep your skin protected and healthy. 

Take a cool shower

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Hot showers after sun exposure further dry your skin. So always turn down the temperature before getting into the shower. Also, a cool shower after excess sweating helps to keep skin clear, decreasing acne breakouts.

Cleanse with a mild lotion cleanser

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Harsh chemicals can be very harmful for people who have sensitive skin. So it's very important that you always check the labels of the products that you buy in the market. Look out for harmful chemicals, and opt for natural options, like lavender, tulsi, neem, or even strawberry infused cleanser. 

Cool off with a mist

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Stash a bottle of face mist in your cooler so you can mist your face and body when you're out. Mists are packed with antioxidants and nutrients that will soothe and hydrate your skin on top of cooling you down.

Go for a hydrating moisturiser

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Use sensitive skin moisturizer with antioxidants to hydrate your skin. Sensitive skins are generally low on hydration, therefore it is best to always go for moisturisers that are not heavy or oil-based that can clog your pores, instead go for light, water-based hydrating moisturiser. 

Protect your skin when out

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It is very important that you cover your skin effectively when you go out in the sun. Take your hats, sunglasses, scarves, and sunscreens out of storage and use them for sun safety.

Exfoliate regularly

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People with sensitive skin are always wary of trying exfoliation thinking it will damage their skin more. But they couldn't be more wrong, exfoliation helps in removing dead skin cells that help to improve the tone and texture of your skin. You should always go for a gentle exfoliating scrub, or even homemade scrubs would work if you don't trust the chemicals. A

SUNSCREEN, SUNSCREEN, and SUNSCREEN

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It’s important to wear sunscreen every day, regardless of the season. And if you have sensitive skin it is important that you do not skip on this step because your skin suffers more than others with even a quick trip under the beating sun. Apply (and reapply) broad-spectrum sunscreens that have SPF 15 or higher. Go for light, water-based but effective sunscreens. 

Never skip on removing makeup 

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At the end of the day, we are all tired and we just want to hit the bed as soon as we get home. But it is not a good habit. Doing so can block pores and trap oil inside it, which can lead to bacteria buildup and breakouts. It can also stretch out pores which no one wants. Try makeup removal wipes or a cleanser with natural antibacterial properties.

Now that you know key tips, take care of your skin like a pro. 

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15 Passionate & Beautiful Words from the French Language to Use for Your Beloved https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/beautiful-words-from-the-french-language/ Thu, 12 Jul 2018 13:22:09 GMT 5b47106eb3e5d43ff92956e5 Krishna Priya Pallavi French is a beautiful language, it is a language that emotes passion, love, and class. It is one of the languages in the world that never fails to fascinate us. Spoken widely in the City of Love -- Paris, which is home to cobbled alleys, stunning women, suave men, and most importantly the symbol of love and emotions. There is something about the French language, which makes us fall in love with it, every single time we hear it. So, if like us, you're also a fan of the beautiful language, then get ready to include these incredible gems in your vocabulary, anytime you feel like expressing your love for your beloved and watch them swoon. 















Ready to flaunt these beautiful words in front of your lover? 

Creatives by Nupur Agrawal

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July 2018 Horoscope: What All 12 Signs Can Expect in Terms of Career, Love, Family & Travel https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/July-2018-horoscope/ Thu, 12 Jul 2018 13:07:52 GMT 5b474be0b3e5d474c0e9b167 Sreeparna Mazumder We are in the seventh month of the year and I’m fully aware that this horoscope was long overdue. But, such is July’s vibe. It’s a slow month that’s carefully heralding us into the second half of the year, prepping us and making sure we’re ready to face whatever’s in store for us. Are you beginning to worry? Don’t, because it’s going to be a sweet and peaceful month, much like the monsoons.

Aries

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Aries, you’re going to have a fun month at work and you might finally be able to go on that work trip you’ve been eyeing for a long time now. Family life will be stable but be prepared for surprise visits from parents or a relative. Coming to your love life, it’s going a bit rough, isn’t it? Don’t worry, after the rain comes the rainbow and yours is scheduled for the fourth week of July.

Taurus

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Taureans, it’s time for some retrospection. Half the year is over and, whether at home or at work, you have taken some decisions that could have been avoided. What are they and how could you have done better? These are some of the questions that need immediate solving because July’s not going to be patient with you. But while you’re getting your shit together, keep an eye out for that special someone because your love life’s looking up this month.

Gemini

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Geminis, travel is on the cards for several of you in the third week of July. Which means you’re going to gain new experiences and single ones might even chance upon someone cute and interesting. At home, things are going to be steady and those of you who are moving into new houses, make sure you place a green, leafy plant on the eastern part of your house to attract good vibes.

Cancer

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Cancerians, this is your month and you’re already making the most of it. Some of you have begun new journeys, which will be fruitful if you keep up your positive spirit and don’t let stress pull you down. When it comes to your love life, your dry spell will be over soon if you keep an eye out for new and interesting people. To amplify the good vibes this month, embrace lavender-scented goodies.

Leo

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Leos, the second half of this month will be yours and how. If you’ve been let down by how slow things have been so far, then cheer up. From the second week of this month, you will see positive progress both personally and professionally. What’s more, you might even be up for some travelling in the fourth week.

Virgo

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Virgos, you’re currently in a weird space in life, aren’t you? That feeling of not belonging anywhere and being stuck in a rut is slowly taking over all aspects of your life. However, it’s not going to be that way forever. Soon, you’ll be out of this uncertain phase and be where you belong. And that holds true for both your personal and professional life.

Libra

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Librans, you have met all your goals so far and you’re doing everything right. However, things and experiences of the past might be holding you back and that’s the best way to go about life. So, our suggestion is that you let bygones be bygones and totally immerse yourself in your latest adventures because you truly deserve them.

Scorpio

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Scorpios, both single and married, your romantic life is about to get so much better that you’d never want this season to end. In fact, this might be the perfect time to go on that trip with your partner because your stars are with you. At work, things will sail smoothly with a few ups and downs here and there but you’ll manage them well.

Sagittarius

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Sagittarians, you’ve been working quite hard so it’s time to let your hair down and relax for a while. And that’s exactly what July will offer you. It will be slow but peaceful, something that you’re in dire need of right now. Since travel is on the cards, this might be the right time to take a break from work and explore your interests.

Capricorn

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Capricorns, you need to look at the light that’s awaiting you at the end of the tunnel. Make this month about channeling your inner optimist and ensuring that no negativity gets to you. And when you do this, everything from your work to your personal life will start getting a lot better. To make this process easier, burn some sage at home.

Aquarius

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Aquarians, your work life will be great this month as you will be able to quickly finish projects and move on to newer, exciting ones. However, while you’re killing it at work, don’t forget to spend time with your family and friends. Travel is on the cards for some of you so, all in all, it’s going to be a great month.

Pisces

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Pisceans, June was a tough month, wasn’t it? While you have done extremely well for yourself, you’re also tired AF. Well, you will be happy to know that July will be peaceful and you’ll have a good time. Married people will experience bliss in their paradise while singles are soon going to meet their soulmates.

Now that you know what’s in store for you this month, go make the most of it while the stars cast their magic.

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Love Customised Hand-Painted Shoes? Check Out These 8 Incredible Brands https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/From-Sandals-to-Sneakers-8-Trendy-Comfy-HandPainted-Footwear-Brands-You-Must-Know-About/ Thu, 12 Jul 2018 13:03:49 GMT 5b471ca89d2fe36ef6c0cc98 Krishna Priya Pallavi We all love nice, trendy footwear, that adds some nice sass and class to our whole ensemble. Like our outfits need to be perfect, in a similar way your footwear also needs to go in sync with your personality and your outfit. And what better way emote your personality into your shoes buy getting your hands on pretty hand painted and customised footwear. So, if like us, you're also a fan of customised hand painted shoes, we have sorted out the best options for you to check out. From sneakers to sandals these websites have it all. 

Esbe 

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Esbe is about colours, fun, and enjoying the spirit of youth with a tint of creativity. They offer a collection of footwear that is not only comfy to wear but also looks great. 

Check them out here

Flawed29

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Flawed29 is all about creating beautiful-hand painted things. Painted with utmost love, here you will find the most vibrant and trendy collection. 

Check them out here

Engrave

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Engrave is a platform for unique furniture, art, craft, fashion, and home decor created by artisans across India. Their line of footwear is based on the idea that each product that comes out should have an individuality and also comfort for its wearer. 

Check them out here

Al Artz

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Add a bold pop to your look with Al Artz super comfortable, super creative, and super trendy footwear collection. all their shoes are extremely comfortable and come in all shapes and sizes. You will fall in love with their out-of-the-box ideas and their handmade & hand painted shoes. 

Check them out here

Lazy Brats

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LazyBrats is run by a group of artists who love to paint their minds on the canvas. They are a customised hand painted fashion brand which deals in shoes, ballerinas, slip-ons etc. You can select from a wide range of chic designs here. They also do custom designed footwear. 

Check them out here

Vedic Belle

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At Vedic Belle, you will find two extremely opposite cultures get mixed tremendously to form a product that you absolutely love. Here they bring an ethnic tough to modern art and designs to create a futuristic pattern or objects. 

Check them out here

Zubiya 

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Zubiya here provides all the art lovers with a product, with a story on shoes, ballerinas, sandals, slip-ons, and much more. All the products here are hand-crafted and painted by Zubiya artists. You can get custom made hand painted designs and prints also to get the personalised touch to your own footwear. 

Check them out here

WorldArtCommunity 

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WorldArtCommunity is a forum where artists and designers showcase their work with uniquely designed or handmade creations. They are caterers of products that breathe beauty and joy. Their designs are eclectic and will fit your wardrobe perfectly. 

Check them out here.

Which ones are you most excited about?

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8 Incredible Benefits of Mint Leaves & How to Use Them in Your Daily Skincare Routine https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/amazing-benefits-of-mint-leaves-to-get-rid-of-acne/ Wed, 11 Jul 2018 13:26:51 GMT 5b45fabc9d2fe379cc3cac3d Krishna Priya Pallavi I am a mojito girl, and I love a nice drink for myself as much as I love natural beauty treatments -- as holistic and effective as possible. Between the two things that I love, there's one thing common between them -- mint leaves. Just like in a mojito a dash of mint can add all that extra zing, including a few mint leaves into your beauty routine can completely change your skin health (especially if you have oily skin). Mint leaves are extremely beneficial for those who have acne prone skin. It not only acts as a deterrent for reappearing acnes, but also helps in getting rid of those pesky acne scars. So, we decided to you help you out in reaping the maximum benefits of this great herb. The answers to all your questions are right here.

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Acts as an anti-inflammatory agent

Mint leaves have salicylic acid, which is used for treating acne and in reducing inflammation. It is mostly found in acne-cleansing and skin-peeling solutions. 

Unclogs pores

Mint has great acne healing properties that unclogs your pores and gets rid of all the dirt, which further helps in acne to dry up and heal faster.

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Prohibits bacterial growth

It helps in prohibiting bacterial growth, which leads to lesser outbreaks.

Refreshes skin

Mint lowers the oxidative stress and reduces acne scars, thus helping in brightening your skin, and keeping it soft and supple. It also softens and calms itchy skin.

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Hydrates your skin

One of the major reason your skin produces excess oil is that it is never hydrated enough. This leads to excess oil production because the skin compensates for the loss of hydration. Mint locks in the moisture in your skin by tightening your pores. 

Tones your skin

Mint is a mild astringent that can be used to tone your skin. The ingredient removes dirt and grime from your pores, which are the primary cause for outbreaks. 

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Gets rid of blackheads

One of the major problems that accompany oily skin & acne, is blackheads. Blackheads form when dirt and oil settle into your pores and clog them. Because mint is an effective herb when it comes to cleansing pores and tightening them, it thus also reduces them from reoccurring. 

Lightens and removes acne scars

The salicylic acid content of mint leaves assists smooth cell turnover, which in turns loosens dead skin cells and ensures that the new ones are healthy. This helps you achieve clear skin by fading acne scars.

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To achieve the optimum benefits of mint leaves, you can use these masks for rejuvenated skin.

Lemon And Mint Face Pack For Treating Acne

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You will need 10-12 mint leaves and 1 tbsp of lemon juice. Start by grinding the mint leaves with a mortar and pestle and add the lemon juice into it. Apply this mixture to your acne, scars, and acne-prone areas of your skin. Leave it on for about 15 minutes, then rinse your face with cool water. The healing and lightening properties of lemon and mint will help you get rid of acne and its scars. 

Multani Mitti And Mint For Oily Skin To Control Excess Oil 

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For this, you will require 1 tbsp of Multani Mitti, 10-12 mint leaves, 1/2 tbsp honey, and 1/2 tbsp curd. First, grind the mint leaves and to it add Multani mitti, honey, and curd. Then stir the ingredients together until you get a smooth mixture. Apply this mixture onto your face as a face pack. Leave it on for about 20 minutes and then rinse your face with cool water.

Now, that you know about the healing qualities of mint, go reap all its benefits and fight acne. 

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12 People Share the Harsh Truth They Want the Opposite Gender to Know & It’s All Too Real https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/people-share-with-us-the-one-harsh-truth-they-want-the-opposite-gender-to-know/ Wed, 11 Jul 2018 13:15:32 GMT 5b45bc06b3e5d4201ba116d4 Krishna Priya Pallavi There are certain quirks that makes us stand out from each other. But sometimes these quirks are pretty annoying and can drive the other person crazy, especially if they are in a relationship with you.  For instance, when a Reddit user asked people this same question -- to reveal the harsh truths about the opposite gender — they got some pretty eye-opening answers.













Through their brutal honesty, there are a few words of wisdom we could all learn from, regardless of gender.

Creatives by Ashish Kumar

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8 Instances That Show Public Spaces Have Unsaid, Different Rules for Men and Women https://www.vagabomb.com/amp/Rules-In-Public-Spaces-for-Men-and-Women/ Wed, 11 Jul 2018 13:08:43 GMT 5b45f83f9d2fe379cc3cac3b Sreeparna Mazumder Public spaces are owned by men. From the metro you take to work everyday to the film theatre you visit, they are occupied by and designed for men. Women are the exceptions there. We have to devise strategies and find techniques to fit into these spaces that aren’t meant for or accessible to us. If you’re having difficulty wrapping your head around this, here are a few examples that will help you understand what I’m trying to say.

In public transport systems, men manspread while women accommodate themselves in as little space as possible.

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And if women try sitting comfortably or without crossing their legs over their knees, they’ll be asked to “sit like a lady.”

On roads, women have to safeguard themselves while walking because men move without caution and can bump into you at any given time.

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Women either use their hands or handbags to protect themselves because they know that invariably there will be at least one man who will painfully bump into their breasts and walk away without apologising.

At night, women have to constantly look over their shoulders while men can roam around freely.

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Ask any woman and she’ll confirm this.

In film theatres, women stay cautious throughout the entire duration of the film to ensure no man takes advantage of the darkness to grope them. Men? Well, they just watch the film.

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When women are going out with their girl friends, there’s an unsaid agreement to look out for each other.

Menstruating women aren’t allowed to enter temples even though it’s a perfectly normal biological process.

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This is an archaic rule that’s still prevalent in modern India even though period is as normal a biological process as it gets.

In offices, men can manspread, talk in loud voices, and even yell at their colleagues while women can’t do any of those things because “professionalism”.

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A male boss screaming at his colleagues is a strict boss or a taskmaster. A female boss doing the same thing is either PMSing or a bitch.

At gyms, parks, or lawns, women have to endure stares and blatant objectification from men because they are wearing fitted sports attire while exercising.

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Imagine living in constant fear or discomfort for exercising your basic right to wear a sports bra in a gym.

In planes and trains, women have to sit in supreme discomfort because the handrest will be occupied by the man next to them.

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And men take advantage of the common handrest because they’re fully aware that women won’t go to the trouble of asking for their fair share of the handrest.

These are only a few examples of public spaces that aren’t designed for women. If you think hard enough, you’ll find several other such places that discriminate between men and women. Let’s resolve to be aware of this disparity and make conscious efforts toward rectifying it so that women can exercise their right to occupy public spaces without fearing for their safety. We have a long way to go but the journey can only be successful if we take the first few necessary steps.

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