Love or a Sham? Women in Their 20s Talk about What the Whole Deal Is about Valentine’s Day
Today is Valentine's Day. Some of us are excited, a majority of the people I seem to know are dreading it. The constant posting of I love yous and photos of dates, cakes, and even rose petal strewn beds has got a lot of us in a mood that is half 'I don't care,' and half 'I want to kill them.' But what is the truth about Valentine's Day? Are people celebrating just because it's the cool/popular thing to do? The women of Vagabomb tell us what they actually think of this day:
"I never liked the fact that it was such a strong reminder for people who were single, that they were single and needed someone in their lives."
"I have never really liked the idea of Valentine's Day, even as a kid. It was always OTT for me. I never understood why there was so much pressure on this one day to be with your loved one; when in reality, you should express your love every day to them. Also, I never liked the fact that it was such a strong reminder for people who were single (like yours truly), that they were alone and needed someone in their lives. Why do we always need to have someone in our lives? Why can't we celebrate singledom and not be judged for it? Even when I was in a relationship, I did not celebrate it (and thankfully, my partner was of the same opinion). I also realised that the day has a rather sordid and undefined history (look it up). I say, screw the candy hearts and the red roses — celebrate it or not, just remember that you can express your love on any day and every day. Don't wait for a Hallmark holiday to be a nice, loving partner."
"If I'm in a relationship and my partner wants to celebrate it, I'll be up for it."
"Personally, Valentine's Day isn't a huge deal for me. I mean, it's nice that people buy roses and gifts for their partners but I don't believe in its concept. Having said that, if I'm in a relationship and my partner wants to celebrate it, I'll be up for it. But if they don't want to celebrate love especially on this day, that's also cool with me. To sum it up, I haven't given much thought to Valentine's Day. To me, it's just the day when Archies sells overpriced cards and florists triple the price of roses."
"To take out one day and just spend it with your loved one, I like the thought of that."
"For me, I like the notion of Valentine's Day. I know people say that you should celebrate love every day, and not just one day. And it should be like that. We should celebrate love every day. But we are all so busy in our day-to-day life. To take out one day and just spend it with your loved one, I like the thought of that. It's like when someone does something special for you every day, it becomes ordinary and we don't notice that. I hate the commercialszation side of Valentine's Day, but as a thought I really like it. It makes the romantic inside me happy."
"Love shouldn't be bound by one single day."
"I have never really like the idea of Valentine's Day. I just don't understand the idea of suddenly showering your partner with all the love that you can muster for just one day and then forget about them entirely on other days. I think one shouldn't really need a specific date to spend with your loved one. Love shouldn't be bound by one single day. It should come to you naturally, free-flowing. It should be reckless and exciting. If you want to shower your partner with love, do it the entire year, don't do it because people decided to market one day as the 'Day of love' or because you find every other person doing it."
"Valentine's day is an excuse for humans to feel validated."
"Valentine's day is an excuse for humans to feel validated. It is a commercial agenda that has nothing to do with love of goodwill."
"All you are doing is buying to consumerism, that has nothing do with love or real emotions."
"I think Valentine's Day is a capitalist agenda. It's like how we have commercialised New Year's but at least there is something significant about that, Valentine's Day is just some random day, that had to do with something totally different (which you should really look up). I believe in celebrating love and expressing it every day. I believe in letting my partner know they matter to me, every single day. I also understand celebrating your love for someone on a special day, that is why people celebrate anniversaries. This particular day seems totally useless to me, and it only became popular because businesses figured out they could make a tonne of money out of it. And unfortunately, I feel that I judge people who want to celebrate it, because all you are doing is buying to consumerism, that has nothing do with love or real emotions."
What do you think of this day? Tell us in the comments.