Indian Men, This Is Why Foreign Women Aren't Swiping Right on You on Tinder
Are Indians racist? Undoubtedly so. Not only that, but we seem to be humongous hypocrites. On one hand, we blatantly discriminate against people from the Northeast, as well as people from African countries. On the other, we seem to have very mixed feelings about white people. Sometimes, they're the subjects of our extreme xenophobia, and we hate them for having colonised us (even if they're not from Britain), but at other times, we almost worship them. We find everything about them attractive – their features, their accents, and their entire manner – for no reason other than the fact that, wait for it, they're not Indian.
Early last year, there was a GQ article featuring a personal account of a white man on Tinder in India. It spoke about how Indian women, overwhelmingly, prefer white men on Tinder, and tend to have some serious issues with Indian men on the dating app for various reasons, some of which are not unjustified.
Let's face it, some Indian men can seem plain creepy. From starting off with conversations about sex right off the bat, to 'subtly' asking women how many sexual partners they've had, which is nothing more than a great example of the hypocrisy of these men, who are horny as hell, but still prefer to have sex with virgins. One cannot always accuse women of racism if they prefer to steer clear of Indian men on Tinder.
So, when an Indian man decided to post a potent question on Quora, he got an apt response from an American woman. This is the question that has been bugging so many Indian men:
And this is the befitting reply from an American woman who "passionately loves travelling in India."
"If any of you care to look at my social media pages you'll notice it's primarily Indian guys. All ages. All states. All religions. All educations. All jobs. I have very solid experience in how you behave when an American woman replies via social media (for the record, I know a lot of Indian guys in person, so rest assured I also know all the variables of your IRL personalities)
Let me give a sincere thank you to all the Indian men who have protected me, defended me and literally kicked the ass of guys harassing me. (I don't condone this, but sometimes it's all they understand)
Unlike western guys, Indian guys immediately ask very personal questions. I won't use actual screen shots to protect the (not so) innocent. But here are some classic questions and comments from Indian guys;
What are you wearing? Is your husband home? Do you get along well with your husband? Are you laying in bed? When did you lose your virginity?
These are innocent enough questions. But, to most women if the guy is Indian, she stops there. Why? Because if she answers those questions, the next series goes like this;
Do you enjoy the sex? Can I see a photo of your face with your hair loose? I have one doubt... is masturbation bad for health? Can I see one photo of you in jeans?
Rarely will an American woman not block you at this point. It's very offensive to us to be asked these questions.
If we are still allowing messages, next comes;
Can I see your breast? Side view and front view. Cleavage is fine for first photo. (Keep in mind, no need to have responded to previous sexual type questions. You can change the subject with each reply and they still do this!)
I've never seen a clean (what quoras policy here? Do we say slang or medical term?) ? American girls are clean and I want to see.
It gets worse from there. Why do I put up with this offensive behavior? Because you are better than this. All of you. So am I. So is every American woman who you think is worthless enough to engage in casual sex with you. You'll never realize your error if no one is willing to patiently teach you. I have blocked some, but 99.9% eventually get it. Overtime I see their English improve, their mind open and their intelligence about culture expand. It's worth the effort. I see men who start to see me, a woman (white!) as a friend and a confidant. Not some bimbo to do wrong things with. That's worth it!
I have been told, "why can't you do the sex? You're white. White women can have abortions." Do I even need to explain how wrong this is? I once asked a guy who was continually asking me to "say (bad word for female generals) to me" why Indian women aren't asked the same questions. I was told "because they are like pillar. Goddess. Most respect to them." As if somehow I'm lesser. Wow. It takes every ounce of love I can muster up to help these naive guys realize the errors in their thinking. Yes, I called them naive. They are clueless about women and western culture.
Guys, they block you because your countrymen have made it known that they think a white girl in jeans and a tshirt will have "the sex" with anyone. They think you're a racist pig. Yes, they judge you and it isn't fair, is it? It sucks to be judged by a few cultural impressions of the worst behaved. It sucks to be on our end, the end that is treated like a worthless person, too.
I've heard, seen, and read things that would make Sunny Leone blush with embarrassment.
Guys, my girlfriends tell me to make sure my Indian friends can't see them. As recently as last Saturday a friend told me Indian guys that know me keep trying to send her wrong messages.
Please stop. You're better than this."
Well, that remains to be seen, but barring the implication that one's fluency in English is connected to their intelligence or understanding of culture, we pretty much agree with this lady.
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