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Hybristophilia: When a Woman Is Sexually Attracted to Horrifying, Psychopathic Criminals

Sometimes taboo, sometimes talked about in whispers, sometimes discussed with enthusiasm, sex and desire have always fascinated people. Although what is ‘mainstream’ can be debated at length, certain things are definitively outside even of what can be considered ‘kinky,’ and hybristophilia is one of those things. Classified as a sexual paraphilia, or perversion, it is the sexual and romantic attraction to someone because of the violent and gruesome crimes they have committed. 


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Colloquially termed the Bonnie and Clyde syndrome, hybristophilia mostly affects women. Even if the term is unfamiliar, there are plenty of references and representations of it in popular culture. Every time you see a female character fall for the ‘bad boy’ or the dangerous man, often illogically and driven by the belief that they can ‘save’ their object of affection, it might be a representation of this condition.

Sexologist Professor John Money describes hybristophilia as “a sexual paraphilia in which an individual derives sexual arousal and pleasure from having a sexual partner who is known to have committed an outrage or crime, such as rape, murder, or armed robbery.”



Image Source | News report about serial killer Ted Bundy's wife giving birth to their child

There are two kinds of hybristophiliacs, passive and aggressive, and a person can fall in either category. Passive hybristophiliacs are sexually attracted to the criminal but do not partake in committing crimes. They often believe they can change this behaviour, or ‘rescue’ them from being a criminal. They tend to make excuses for the violent behaviour and believe that they will not be personally harmed by their ‘lover.’ They also try to put themselves in positions where they can be seduced, manipulated, and lied to by the people they are attracted to. Serial killer groupies and women who write fan mail declaring their love for criminals in prisons are passive hybristophiliacs.


Image Source | Serial killer Tedny Bundy with a friend

Aggressive hybristophiliacs are those who actively help the criminals by luring victims, hiding bodies or even committing these crimes. They often lack the understanding that their partner or lovers are psychopaths and unable to love, and are probably being manipulated. They are attracted to their lover because of their violent nature, but they also want to feel loved by them.


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Both passive and aggressive hybristophiliacs tend to end up in unhealthy or even abusive relationships. Some psychologists have also suggested that female hybristophiliacs are sometimes the ones who plan the crimes and they even coax their partner into committing them to be sexually aroused.

There are various speculations about what drives the motivations and emotions of hybristophiliacs. One possibility is that those who are sexually attracted to infamous and high media profile criminals may love the attention they receive vicariously. Another possibility is that these men are viewed as ‘ultra-masculine’ because of their horrific and seemingly unimaginable crimes.


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Psychologist Corey Vitello, in his research, writes, “Maybe, women fall for the bad boys because they are forbidden. Perhaps it's the ultimate taboo, thus, the ultimate aphrodisiac. Consequently, those women who do not grow out of the bad-boy fixation become a hybristophile because the image is so strongly paired with sexual arousal; they need to be with a notorious partner to achieve sexual pleasure."


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There is also debate over how this develops in people. Hybristophiles often have low self-esteem and have possibly been victims of physical and sexual abuse. This, according to Vitello, makes them more vulnerable to deviant sexual preferences and criminality. Although some may just be acting out their own deviant personality which was perhaps repressed.

There are numerous examples in popular culture of this:

  • Ted Bundy, an American serial killer, kidnapper, rapist, burglar, and necrophile was the object of affection of a huge number of women after his arrest. Many women came to see him in the courtrooms during his trial. He received hundreds of love letters from women while he was in prison and eventually got married to a former colleague who kept coming to his hearings.
  • Jeffrey Dahmer, a serial killer, is said to have had dozens of women sending him letters, money, and other gifts while he was in prison for murdering and eating his victims.
  • Charles Manson was an American criminal and cult leader who a commune later called the Manson Family. He was so charming and impressive that his followers committed a series of nine murders influenced by him. Manson had a huge female fan base. He was featured in underground newspapers as ‘Man of the Year,’ and even had a cover photo and cover story in Rolling Stones magazine.
  • Charles Sobhraj, or the Bikini Killer, claimed that he fell in love with the Nepalese daughter of his attorney, Nihita Biswas. Nihita also appeared in the fifth season of the television show Bigg Boss.
  • Other examples are Mandakini, Monica Bedi, and Mamta Kulkarni, who fell in love with well-known gangsters like Dawood Ibrahim, Abu Salem, and Vicky Goswami. 


Image Source | Mamta Kulkarni & Vicky Goswami

From Ghulam to Ek Villian, we see many female characters fall for the ‘bad guy’ in various degrees. Although we may not think of it then, it is possible that these characters display this complicated and hard to understand sexual perversion. 

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