10 Phrases We Use in Our Daily Lives That Show the Patriarchal Mindset of the Society

Original artwork by Gauri Saxena.

Whenever it comes to women’s rights and protection, we get all heated up with fury and self-righteousness. It's time we realise that it's not always men who berate women. Women also use and believe in some stereotypes that are demeaning to their own gender. Here are a few expressions we all use in our day-to-day lives without realising how they contribute to the patriarchal setup. 

All our ideas of equality go down the drain when it comes to any work that requires physical strength. We too can lift stuff, can't we?

No, you're equally capable if you decide not to live under the rock of stereotypes.

Yes! Because how can we forget, ‘Akeli ladki khuli tijori ki tarah hoti hai’. Isn't that right?

Otherwise, you may yet again outshine men in this big bad world.

And this phrase adds to the age old ‘fact’ that women can’t drive.

Guys, let us tell you a secret. There are perfectly sober and decent men out there who exist and are no less human. But what's your definition of a ‘man?’

No, this is me and I’m not on my periods 365 days a year.


There are men who like wearing tight-fitted jeans. Luckily, there are a few things which aren't gender-exclusive.

Some girls like wearing loose shirts. So, what's wrong with it? Please accept that not all women can walk around wearing short dresses and heels.

We need to stop saying this. If you guys aren't aware of it, short hair is not gender specific. And I’m sure they are still better than your chhoti soch.’ No offense!

We need to understand that phrases like ‘mard ko dard nahi hota,’ and ‘man of the house,’ just promote misogyny. What we really require at the moment is some introspection on how we too are adding to the stigma of gender inequality by using such crass and insensitive comments. With a few changes here and there in our speech, we can achieve what we strive for.





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